Hating children is in itself grotesque (because it is bigotry).. it is also invariably a thinly veiled hatred of their mothers. Don’t believe me? Time how long it takes the next conversation you overhear about “children behaving badly”, “over-population”, “social welfare” or “the cost of raising children” to turn its nasty little mouth to mother blaming. Hating mothers is of course really just about hating women, particularly poor women.
I presume these feminists don’t really hate women or children; that saying you hate children is really about trying to say you hate the assumption that you are the sum of your reproductive capacities. But these feminists ought to be careful about laying down with a dog of a concept like “hating children”, they’ll most certainly wake up with fleas.. of the oppressive kind. Not only does hating children make life very hard for their mothers, more so than for their fathers ..and you know, when something impacts much more negatively on women than men that should be a clue to a feminist.. but it also involves hating a group of pretty powerless people -children.
Reading “child hating” on a beloved feminist blog was disheartening. Fortunately feminism has your answer to everything, and on another favourite feminist blog this perfect rebuttal appeared in the same week. Bitch PhD gives some poised bitching and I actually first came to love Bitch for her earlier posts on this topic. Here is Bitch with her latest.
And it’s not funny, feminist, “reasonable,” or acceptable to talk about children as things, or to imply that people who “choose” to have kids are crazy or stupid. When you do those things, you implicitly support the idea that women’s reproductive systems are abnormal, that women with kids are fools, and that children and reproducing women are not part of human society.
I get that a lot of women without kids feel beseiged by sexist bullshit about how unfeminine and selfish they are. Y’all 100% deserve not to hear that crap, and y’all 100% deserve for those of us with kids to have your backs on the right not to.
By the same token, women with kids deserve better than to have childless women support sexism by thinking that if they drink the smug libertarian kool-aid, they’ll somehow get treated as honorary men. I expect feminists like Ann and Amanda to be able to see through the game where we’re asked to turn on each other in order to take the pressure off the folks with the real power–in this case, the power to “choose” whether or not to acknowledge that children are people, too.
Thanks to Hoyden About Town for leading me to this particular post at Bitch PhD.