Comments on: Did porn kill sex?

By: blue milk

blue milk — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 00:34:29 +0000

Kevin – Naomi Wolf’s article isn’t about the currency of women’s beauty as women age, she is comparing her experiences as a 20 yr old (the kinda prime of sexual beauty for women in our patriarchal culture) with the experiences of 20 yr old women today.. so the article isn’t at all about whether men still find Naomi Wolf hot. Although for the record, seen Wolf lately? She still has loads of mainstream beauty standards worth of hot going on.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 13:40:56 +0000

While I think its quite possible that porn has given some people the wrong impressions on sex, I really didn’t like how the author described that breakdown. Her view felt even more objectifying than porn usually is. Basically it came down to “damn, men don’t drool over me just cuz I’m naked anymore”.

Now maybe if she felt that way about men and she felt kinda uneven now, I’d understand. She sounds like she basically expects men to fall over in the streets because she had the daring to expose a *gasp* female body!

How would you like it if you were on a date and some guy randomly takes his clothes off and commanded: “PUSSY! WET NOW!” It seems like a lot of women feel they should have that power over men.

By: Tracee Sioux

Tracee Sioux — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 03:36:32 +0000

I think porn killed actual sex. Mainly, because I think all the information about how to have “good” sex comes from porn. I can’t believe I’m in my mid-30s and I’m just barely coming to put my own pleasure in the equation in a real way. I’m 35 and I just now realized I’ve been having Porno Sex my whole life. Getting rid of this media saturated idea of sex appears to be the key to having really fulfilling sex. Porno Sex is not for women’s pleasure. It is for men and voyeurs. And like Pink said, “I’m not here for your entertainment.”

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By: blue milk

blue milk — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 21:30:56 +0000

I really enjoyed the intelligent comments you all left in response to Wolf’s article.

By: jdg

jdg — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 00:04:34 +0000

my neighbor found a graphic porno magazine in the bushes when we were both 14. he kept it for himself but let me look at it once in awhile. I had a copy of the 1992 sports illustrated swimsuit issue hidden under my mattress and later a single copy of the victoria’s secret catalog that came for my neighbor while she was on vacation and I collected her mail.

I never saw an actual porno before I lost my virginity. I am actually really grateful for that. I don’t know how a 15-year-old boy could be stopped from seeing all that’s out there now on the internet. an entire generation of men is growing up with graphic, phony internet intercourse fueling their masturbation fantasies.

I now have a son and a daughter. I’m scared shitless for both of them, not because I don’t want them to have sex, but because I want them to have enjoyable, satisfying sex. the kind you rarely, if ever, see in a pornographic movie.

By: armagny

armagny — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 07:00:51 +0000

Sex loses a great dose of energy on both sides when people stop being able to enjoy the simple frenetic unstructured shag. I came up in a generation of males told, both by various media and many of the women they knew, that sex had to be a 5 part exercise involving considerable gymnastic expertise. Think Cosmo, sex in the city, et al.

By: serahrose

serahrose — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 02:43:58 +0000

Hm. Really interesting article. It reminds me of an author I read a long long time ago whose name disappeared a long long time ago too. He or she wrote something about how it was so much more alluring to watch a woman partially clothed than fully naked because it contained mystery and pieces of unknown. Perhaps that is why many of us like to turn the lights off when we have sex. It’s not for fear of looking at each other, but we like the half concealment. I wonder if all these college kids who have learned through porn get to enjoy anything but the actual orgasm. Because, goodness, there’s a lot more fun in it than just the end bit.

All that said, I thought the turn at the end about her Orthodox Jewish friend was rather forced. I think she could have found a better example than one in which women have few rights of their own.

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