Saw a brief video of an orgasmic birth recently and I couldn’t help but wince with ick when they interviewed the goofy partner of the orgasmic birther, who claimed “making out” was an opportunity no man would ever turn down, not even during labour. Ah, what? You’ve got to be kidding me. What kind of thinking is this? Good or bad, birth is really fucking intense. There is a lot of shit happening. Sometimes literally. Feeling like a quick hand job during your partner’s labour I’d liken to me seeing fallen soldiers in a battlefield and deciding that I’ll run over and straddle them.
Speaking of unlikely birth stories… the orgasmic birth
January 25, 2009 by blue milk
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That’s fucking crazy. And if you are having a hospital birth, do you really want to have people around while you getting it all sexy? blech.
Ugh. I’ve heard of nipple and clitoral stimulation being a great help when early labour stalls (or doesn’t start at all!) but I always thought that for the partner, it was an act of mercy (a bit like massaging her lower back well past the point where he can’t feel his hands anymore…).
That was an awful news piece, if we saw the same one. (And how many can there be, really?) But I do know a mama who had one… it’s not exactly orgasmic like sex orgasmic… ecstatic birth is much better description of the experience.
I haven’t seen the piece and you are right that comment is more than blech. I do get the concept of orgasmic birth, even though I have not witnessed or experienced one. Feeling loved, secure and aroused makes for a pleasant birth experience, even orgamsic for some but for many it is not possible to go there for a variety of reasons.
I do understand though for a couple who is into the birth experience together and who are open to it, that there may be arousal and pleasure on both sides. I see nothing wrong with this and actually love how it turns mainstream views of medicalized birth on its side.
But the quote you gave where the partner claims:
“making out” was an opportunity no man would ever turn down, not even during labour
leaves me feeling that the experience is more about him than her and it feels opportunistic to say the least. Hearing this from my partner would shut down the oxytocin in my body really quick and would definitely instigate my fight or flight response – probably fight and then flight. Yuck.