“But men are used to being centre of the universe. It’s like they throw a tantrum when the baby is born because their world as they knew it is thrown off kilter.”
And (my use of bold)..
“Men go to work all day but are still expected to come home and help with the babies. Neither of us is sure what we’re supposed to be doing and we both feel resentful.”
And…
“Sex is the last thing you feel like, with little people crawling over you all day,” she says. “Then you feel the hand creeping over and it’s like, ‘Oh no.’ It’s not like I don’t love my husband. I just love sleep more.”
Also, when will we see a discussion of the last point that finally joins the dots between those first two points? Oh sexism, you bore me so. (From here).
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I think that article was well intentioned but, yeah, definitely some issues. Given that the scope of the article is stated as conflict arising from house work, a little research on comparative hours worked including paid and unpaid might help to change it from a ‘hey, everyone has their point of view, and us girls are just naturally self-sacrificing’ message to a ‘this is how much most women actually do and it doesn’t really even out’ .
Let’s not even get started on advising people having marital issues to have a second baby in the hope of ironing out the conflicts you weren’t able to resolve the first time around….
“When you become a mum, it’s like running a childcare centre with your ex.”
That line is from that Ethan Hawke movie in Paris – Before Sunset I think – but it was the guy who said parenting is like running a child care centre with your ex..
Oh, a woman who uses the “help” word for men sharing the housework has written a book on it? Kill me now.
And wasn’t Jacinta Tynan the author of the article stating how ecstatic she was with mothering work and why don’t other mothers just get with the program? Maybe you should kill me again.
And another thing!!!…. People who write “baby” as if it’s a proper noun with no indefinite or definite article… Oh kill me a third time and run over my corpse with a SUV from the Eastern Suburbs. So much fail!