This is an interesting discussion from Tracy Clark-Flory over at Salon. And the expert answers to this one are really quite good.
What would you do if you found your 13 year old child’s porn viewing history in the browser?
October 1, 2012 by blue milk
3 Responses
Leave a Reply
Categories
Twitter: what can I say? Inane and pointless like everyone else’s.
- RT @stephenjolly99: New Coalition policy to deport foreigners who commit crimes attracting over a year in jail exempts corporate crime 10 hours ago
Recent Comments
i wrote this and stuff
The Internet’s Favourite blue milk Rants
Meta
Archives
T
Sorry for the non-comment, there, I was interrupted.
We would … well, we DID talk to our kids from early, EARLY ages about how porn is created by and for men, at the expense of women, and that porn is not what sex is really about, and that frankly most of it is pretty disgusting. That sex should be enjoyed by whoever is participating, and that part of what can be so great about it is the emotional connection you create, which then (it is to be hoped) enhances the physical.
Then we bought an illustrated “Lovemaking for couples” book for the older one, and told him it’s natural to be curious about sex and how it works and what it looks like and feels like. That was when he was 13, and he’s 16 now. If he had shown signs of being attracted to his own sex, we’d have looked for a homosexual equivalent of the book we got him.
Also, we have pretty tight anti-porn controls on our internet. Because they WILL try to find it. How could they not? I would have!
I love that a chunk of the comments are just talking about computer viruses and malware!
In all seriousness, I think talking about porn is an important part of sex ed. There are some great resources (e.g http://bishtraining.com/index.php/planet-porn/) for approaching this.
I also think there’s a lot of value in some of the Salon comments that mention literature. I think the main advantages of (non-photographic) art and literature are that on the whole you can trust it to be free of exploitation and the line between reality and fantasy is more pronounced. Besides literature lets you in the characters’ heads, and we all know the brain is the best erogenous zone.