Yes, I really loved what you had to say too. I’m also going to send the link to my partner. He’s really been struggling to find things that he enjoys that our kids also enjoy. I think it will be a relief to hear other people articulate what he has been feeling.
On the mother bear issue, I experienced that very thing when my son was about 1, and another child bit him in the playground. Before I could even think about it, I swooped in and grabbed him away. It was such an adrenaline fuelled moment, and one which made me realise that I would throw myself in front of danger to save them. The primal nature of my (probably over the top) reaction shocked me.
I have had similar experiences and then felt quite embarrassed afterwards. When we did a tour of my daughter’s potential nursery when she was just 11 months old an older child (4 years old) purposefully shoved her off a table that she was leaning on (she was only just learning to stand and still very precarious) and I leaped in and aggressively elbowed this child out of the way. I still feel embarrassed about that. And another time I grabbed a 7 year old child’s wrist and yelled “No!” when he was threatening my daughter in the sandpit (after this repeatedly happening). I just saw red. Afterwards I really worried that I had overreacted. But at the time, something just possessed me.