Here’s an article from the Sydney Morning Herald written by Adele Horin about the dilemma of modern motherhood that proves it is possible to talk about the current generation of mothers and their difficulties without accusing them of being boring, self-involved, neurotic or incompetent.
You can’t blame them for worrying. So much about domestic life has been simplified. Shiny floorboards replaced dusty carpet, woks replaced casserole dishes, stir-fries superseded stews. But raising children seems to have become more complicated, expanding to fill time people no longer have.
Horin’s article, Relax, new mothers, fretting won’t get you anywhere includes 7 lessons in motherhood that are well worth reading to keep in perspective where you are at right now.
1. Marriage is Irrelevant Tie the knot by all means but don’t expect the children to care. They won’t watch the video or look at the photo album, not if South Park is on the box. They will never be called “bastard” or made to feel different by their friends, who will be much more interested in your home entertainment system than whether you wear a wedding ring. They won’t feel insecure, providing the pair of you don’t split up. So don’t do it for the kids.
P.S. Thanks Helen for letting me know about the article.
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