A feminist mother who includes “happy” in all her definitions, which I do so like because what is it all for if you can’t be happy? Aerenchyma from A Time and a Place is the mother of two sons (I think, I’ve only just discovered her) and she’s responded to my 10 plus questions on feminist motherhood here.
It is a bittersweet happiness though isn’t it? Several mothers have mentioned a change in their experience of feminist revolution after becoming mothers, not so much a quietening of their rage but something akin to a broken heart, to the quiet steadiness of suddenly knowing that your heart is very fragile, and a different approach to revolution because of it. A Time and a Place mentions this too.
- What has surprised you most about motherhood? The exhaustion.
- How has your feminism changed over time? I think I’ve become softer…more “heartful” than cerebral about injustice. Injustice causes physical reactions where, when younger, only intellectual frustrations manifested. What is the impact of motherhood on your feminism? I believe my heart became exposed when I had children. I became open to pain and love in a very different way. I experienced a lack of control with both that I never knew existed…I believe this was a direct cause of the heartful-ness that I mentioned.