We’re not always blissed out on four year old-ness, see also here.
1. Maybe it was when you grew out of your new shoes three weeks after I bought them, or maybe it was when I saw you scampering naked (refusing as usual to dry yourself after your bath) but I suddenly noticed that your body has changed entirely from toddler to school child. You are lean and impossibly elongated. Only your pronunciation of certain letters and words ( like “bit” instead of “but” and “shooshi” instead of “sushi”) betrays your true age.
2. You had your latest vaccination and you were so brave, though your eyes silently welled up in tears. And the way you shuddered when it was your brother’s turn and you said you couldn’t bear to hear him cry. You have completely opened your heart to him. You are the loveliest big sister.
3. Our beach holiday. One evening after I’d put your brother to sleep and my lap was empty you curled up in my arms and drifted off to sleep. I was sipping my wine and chatting to my friend and absently patting you and I realised that this was the most I’d seen of you the entire week. You spent the whole time playing with the other children. You ran in and out of the sea up to your knees, with the other children. You built sand castles and dragons’ nest, with the other children. You showered and dressed yourself, with the other children. You raced on your scooter, with the other children. You fell asleep exhausted, with the other children. And I was at peace, more than I have been in the past, with your emerging transition from baby to child and your corresponding focus from family to friends.
4. Hearing such positive reports of your progress at the Montessori kindergarten. I made a decision that turned out so right, it is a great feeling as a novice parent. And seeing your pride in taking home your first reading homework, truly delightful.
5. When you came into the hospital to see me and meet your brother, just after he was born. You were so incredibly happy and relieved. You climbed straight on to the bed and cuddled up next to your brother and I and covered us both with your flu-germ kisses. And my heart felt complete now that you were with us too and I decided I couldn’t bear being apart and I insisted on being discharged from hospital the very next day.
6. The day you said “I can’t believe he is real” in describing the pure excitement you feel about your brother. That sense of things being too good to be true is exactly how I feel about you and your brother.
7. Watching you skip, not gamble or canter, but proper skipping and what a lovely gait it is when I see you mastering it. Also, watching you fly around on your scooter, both feet off the ground, is rather adorable too. Didn’t we get that birthday present right?
8. Your Poppy was teasing you and you thought he was calling you names, when he was really just trying to start up a round of “see ya later, alligator” with you, and without missing a beat you made up a name of your own for him – ‘fat bat’.
9. The way you’ve matured and learnt some degree of restraint over your emotions – finally. I have been known to tell you on some particularly whiney mornings that I can only cope with one person crying at a time and that right now your baby brother is having his turn. And you actually stop crying, it is amazing. You’ve coped so well with the new world order in our family, and you manage to get your own prickles out, put your own shoes on, and carry your bags in from the car, all be it, reluctantly.
10. Your representational drawing is quite something now. The details you include and the accuracy with which you render them – houses with decks, faces with eye brows and eyes with pupils, tree-houses, foxes, rabbits, bears and their caves, cars on roads, and clouds in the sky. All so impressive.
11. The time you “got the baby to sleep” in the back of the car and oh how you did lecture your father and I then on keeping our voices down so as not to wake the baby. Hypocrite.
1. Being The Favourite.
2. Being The Favourite.
3. Playing computer games with you.
4. Doing science experiments with you.
5. Being The Favourite.
6. Seeing your reading skills grow so quickly.
7. Watching you show off on your scooter (our birthday present to you this year).
8. You adore your brother and your brother is quickly starting to adore you.
9. At least three times a week you say “this is the best day ever”.
10. Being The Favourite.