Reading the tumblr, Fuck Yeah Chubby Girls I had to wonder what it would be like if we didn’t raise women to hate their bodies. The tumblr consists of contributions from teenage and twenty-something women, and while it broke my friggin’ heart it also filled me with hope. The contributions from these young women demonstrate what a radical act it is to claim pleasure in your body, how powerful it is for all of us to see positive images and statements about chubby/fat bodies, and how feminist it is to share all this with other women.
I’m envious of these girls starting that process so young. I would have loved a tumblr like this when I was a teenager, because although slim, my body-hatred was well and truly established by adolescence. It has taken me years to find a state of mind where I can both care about my body and accept it simultaneously. I used to be able to do one or the other but not both at the same time.
Moments of body hatred are rare for me now. Lots of things helped with that – avoiding womens’ magazines and limiting fashion magazines has been significant (I cannot quit celebrity gossip but I try not to read that which is aimed specifically at picking on female celebrities’ bodies); refusing to diet or weigh myself was another one; taking up ‘intuitive eating’ was another again; buying clothes that suit me rather than simply going by what is in fashion; finding DIY fashion role models; getting exercise; having sex; prioritising my physical self (spending time and money on things for me); banning myself from thinking critical thoughts about other women’s bodies; not allowing myself to wallow in negative body image moments; and importantly, removing myself from conversations where women are criticising their own bodies, because I’ve found body hatred to be contagious – although the good news is that the reverse is true too, and thus the benefits of positive body image tumblrs. Here is a sample of comments from that tumblr, you will see what I mean about being both heart-breaking and hopeful..
I’m Amberly, I’m 20 years old, and I’m finally comfortable with my body.
I never thought I’d say “My Boyfriend took this picture”. I feel like he sees me how I see myself
hiiiiiiii my names stephanieee.
ive submitted many times and each time it makes me feel just a bit better about myself🙂
i’m genuinely starting to feel comfortable in my body for the first time and i can’t even explain to you how happy i am about it. i used to say that i was confident and didn’t care but now it’s real for the first time. it’s an amazing feeling.
My name is Emily & I’m 20 years old [245 lbs]. I can honestly say that I have never even imagined taking a pic exposing my shoulders, thats how much I couldn’t stand my reflection & here I am taking a topless picture :] . I felt alone, ugly… Then I found FYCG. At first, I didn’t think the blog could do much, I mean… so what if other girls have confidence, it just reminds me that i don’t, right? Well I was wrong. I followed the blog & everyday the amount of diversity, size, positive messages built my confidence more and more. I couldn’t believe that so many girls felt the same way I did. & I realized we’re all feeling down about ourselves because of the influence that society has over us. Love yourselves girls! We’re beautiful & talented in our own ways. If we saw in ourselves what we see in each other, our confidence would sky rocket through the roof. I don’t fully love myself just yet (Rome wasn’t built in one day) but I know that one day I’ll accept myself fully. For now, this is a huge step.
I’m bigger than most of my friends and family, but I don’t give a fuck.
After one day of looking through this blog, I went into the bathroom and checked myself out. Know what I decided? hot dayum.🙂 You are all so brave. And of course every one of you is beautiful!
shannon, nineteen, happy.
I struggle more and more every day accepting myself for who I am. I can’t complain though, I’ve met a boy who loves me for who I am, who doesn’t care that I’m bigger then him.
I’m emmy, 19. Recently getting more abuse about being fat, so you know what haters. Fuck you. I’m beautiful.
These are pictures of me and my beautiful girlfriend. I’m the one on the right. She is definitely half my size at least, but she still loves me, and thinks I’m beautiful. I suppose the point I’m trying to get across is that you should never give up hope as a bigger girl. Love yourself, I promise you that someone else will end up loving you too.
I’m 16, 180 pounds of pure sexyness. I’ve been noticing my confidence rising over the past couple of weeks. I WAS type of girl who wore baggy sweatpants & sweatpants to school, never tried to look good, and believed that no guys think I’m attractive. BUTTTT that was the old me. I now LOVE to show off my curves and I’ve even got a couple guys interested! I love myself and you should too.Anyway, I’m Shannon. I’m 16, from New Jersey, and almost double the size of a majority of the girls I know. I don’t particularly love it, but what can you do?
Hiya, Eryn here. Third submission. I like to visit here because you are all so beautiful and it makes me so happy. I was having a down/insecure/hating my body day, so I snapped this and thought I’d submit it here to make myself feel better. I’m 20, 5 foot 7 and weigh just under 200 pounds. This is me, my body, and I love it. Most of the time. Love all the chubby girls, y’all are hot🙂 never forget it.
Somedays, I feel gorgeous. Others, I feel ugly as a barnacle that could cause everyone to die. Today I felt beautiful and great about my body. I hope I start to feel more like this everyday.
Today was my first day of a gym class in nearly 6 years. (I have to have this class to get my degree) I wore these shorts for the first time in front of strangers. The entire time i was walking to the gym i felt horrible. I didn’t want anyone to see my white chubby legs. Half way there i nearly turned around and went back home. I was panicky and miserable but i eventually made it to the gym. I had never realized how insecure i was about myself. Im 20 years old and I have to accept myself and be comfortable in my own skin. I know it wont happen tomorrow but I am working on it!
I’m Sarah; i’m eighteen years old, a UK size 14, I stand 6’2” tall and i’ve been a chubby girl for as long as I can remember. It’s pretty traumatic, growing up around cruel kids when you’re a big girl in every way possible. School was the hardest; having to sneak into the cubicles to get changed in PE, having to constantly bite your tongue when someone who doesn’t even know you decides to judge you at a glance, having to genuinely worry ‘does my bum look too big in this?’, envying your peers, the bullying, the abuse. I woke up one day and something snapped. “No more” I told myself. And since then i’ve learned to tolerate, like and eventually love my body; my curves, my belly, my wobbly bits – all of it… It’s taken me years to realise it, but there’s over 6 billion people on this planet, not one will be exactly like another. Life’s too short to be anything other than yourself, that’s why seeing all these beautiful ladies embracing who they are is completely amazing.
i had just gotten my hair and makeup done for prom. picture with my dad<3 he’s always accepted me the way i am.