There is an incredibly thoughtful article currently up at Times Higher Education at the moment, “Women and Children First” and it positions parenting styles and particularly, the re-emergence of ‘attachment parenting’ within the framework of our patriarchal work and living arrangements. It is really worth the read. Every now and then I come across a piece of writing that connects up a series of thoughts I have been having and I never quite see the world the same way again. This is one of those articles; it isn’t talking about anything new for me, but it is making those links in a more concrete, more overarching way for me. This is where feminism meets economics meets parenting:
In turn, what Hrdy finds is that a supportive network of caregivers is an evolutionarily stable strategy, ensuring children have many attachment figures. Patriarchal society isolated mothers by creating an environment that immured them from the social support that has long been the hallmark of our species. The image of the mother as “an all-giving, totally dedicated creature who turns herself over to her children”, says Hrdy, is not one that “takes into account the woman’s perspective”.
If you’re interested in the kind of stuff in this article about ‘attachment theory’ then I can’t recommend On Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love by Robert Karen enough.
Thanks to Veronica Rojas for sending me a link to the article.