Isn’t this a lovely description of a mother catching herself and pulling herself back up?
2. What has surprised you most about motherhood?
My overactive sense of guilt for meeting my own needs–a trait I inherited from my own dear mother. I pep talk myself on an almost-daily basis that it’s not only okay, but totally normal and sane and necessary to meet my needs. Whether it’s the need for a little solitude, social interaction, sleep, or the occasional haircut, every time I empower myself to prioritize and meet my needs, I’m teaching Wolfie that I value myself, that I’m a whole person–not just his mama. And by extension, I teach him to value himself, too. I’m no less adequate a parent for meeting my own needs; in fact, I’m a better parent when I do. Whenever that guilt strikes, though, GAH, it strikes hard. That early modeling is pretty tough to overcome. But most days, psychologically speaking, I put the oxygen mask on myself first.
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