Jessica Valenti being interviewed at Etiquette, a yearly, three-week multidisciplinary art festival created by and for women:
What are three of your favourite pieces of feminist writing?
That’s a hard one because as feminist writing is constantly moving and changing – so are my favorites! Right now, I’m really enjoying the blogs QueerBlackFeminist and Blue Milk. And one of my favorite books is Woman: An Intimate Geography by Natalie Angier.
In your Guardian piece Learning to Love My Baby, you challenged the myth of the “all-encompassing love” mothers are supposed to have for their children as a ” ‘natural’ response to birth”. And even before you became a mother, you wrote about the many ways in which society punishes mothers and mothers-to-be. Has being a parent over the past year or so taught you anything you did not already know about the challenges and/or constructs of motherhood?
I learn something new about motherhood ever day, it feels like! I think the most important lesson I learned is that no matter how feminist or “aware” you are of dangerous constructs, you’re not immune to them. You can know, logically, that you’re feeling bad about yourself because of unrealistic expectations about motherhood – but that doesn’t always make you feel any better in the moment!
Is it in bad taste to name-drop myself?