Foregoing children was a complicated, difficult decision for me. It was riddled with fears about my parenting abilities, an irrational terror of labor pains, and the reality that I simply never felt ready. But once the decision was behind me, I enjoyed my marriage and career largely unfettered, supportive of my colleagues with kids, yet never imagining that I’d experience anything like the comings and goings of maternity leave that presented them with so many challenges. That is, until my parents began to age.
Great article from Rosanna Fay in The Atlantic, “How caring for aging parents affects a career”. Let’s stop thinking of care responsibilities as being ‘your choice, your problem’ and let’s also stop thinking that we’re all fully independent worker bees our entire lives, and let’s stop thinking workplace policies for flexibility are some kind of special perk that mothers get.