Neither of us sees marriage as an achievement, but instead as a mechanism we’ve chosen to bind us closer. Marriage makes you family, which was especially important to us, since neither of us particularly want children; and family means sticking together through the tough spots, and coming out with a love that is deeper and stronger for it. That felt like a big, difficult, fascinating experiment – a challenge and an adventure. I felt lucky, having entered the relationship open primarily to him as a person, rather than evaluating him as a potential husband, to feel that I saw him with a clarity that might have been absent had I been trying to slot him into a preconceived role. By the time we decided to get married, I didn’t feel like I needed him to complete me or to offer some tangible thing I couldn’t secure myself, but simply that my life was at its best when we were each other’s companions, champions, and great loves.
From Jill Filipovic’s “Why I changed my mind about marriage” in Cosmopolitan. Like Jill, I have changed my mind and am about to get married, too. And like Jill, I still think it is a sexist institution.
Maybe I share some of her sentiments because for both of us our marriages will be about family but not about having babies. For Jill it is because she doesn’t want children, where as for me it is because I have four already, (two of my own and two stepchildren).
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We do the best with the tools we’ve got. Congratulations and best wishes.
This is a lovely wish