Archive for the ‘i like walking’ Category


How I celebrated my birthday at the beginning of this year.

Read Full Post »

bb mel11

bb mel12

bb mel9

bb mel5

bb mel6

bb mel8

bb mel10

bb mel3

bb mel1

bb mel2

bb mel13

bb mel14

bb mel15

bb mel17

bb mel19

And then I sketched, too.

bb mel18

bb mel20

bb mel21

bb mel22

Read Full Post »

P1120429april7april1 april4 april3april5


Read Full Post »

aa school hols

Read Full Post »

aa haunted house1

This weekend we had a child to stay for a sleep-over and I am really a bit worn out and I wondered what we could offer in the way of fun things to do at our house. Because I can’t even get movies to play on the TV at the moment. And I don’t have the spare energy to figure it out nor the spare cash to pay someone else to figure it out.

But it was Anne Lamott who said something like you play to your strengths as a parent and this is what I’m good at… pulling unusual ideas out of my arse. So, I remembered an abandoned house I’d noticed on my morning walks and I asked the kids if they wanted to explore a haunted house and … bingo!

aa hautedhouse4

Doesn’t it look like something out of Cormac McCarthy’s The Road?

“Then they set out along the blacktop in the gunmetal light, shuffling through the ash, each the other’s world entire.”

aa hauntedhouse8

aa hauntedhouse2

aa hauntedhouse7

aa hauntedhouse10

aa hauntedhouse3

aa hauntedhouse9

aa hauntedhouse6

aa hauntedhouse5

Back at my home..
I have exceptional taste, yes. I bought the arse tea cosy here.

aa arse

Last month my father came back to Australia and stayed with me for a week. He was exhausted on the first night and after he went to bed I stayed up and wrote my column at the kitchen table. The next night I was incredibly tired and he stayed up alone for the very sad task of writing his mother’s obituary.

He read that obituary at the funeral the following morning. His writing was beautiful. It was all about how accomplished and yet unappreciated his mother had been for her domestic talents. My column about being accountable one day to my children’s future therapist was published that same day, and in a way, I realised my father and I had both written about feminist motherhood.

Every time I look at my kitchen table now I remember how we both sat and wrote our words there, one night after the other.

aa roses

aa shadow

A doctor friend collects these little empty bottles from his surgery and gives them to me to use as tiny vases. Morphine and Ketamine can be the name of our hipster home decorating shop.

aa bottles

aa bottles2


Read Full Post »

ff rain

Read Full Post »

I went with the kids to stay at the beach on the weekend with our friends at their beach house. I don’t think I’ve ever arrived anywhere more worn out.

At one point my friend took my daughter to the shops with her while her teenage son took my four year old boy to play outside with him. I sat in front of a window, all by myself, looking out over the sea thinking I will just have a minute to take in the view and then I will finish reading this book I am reviewing. Two hours later I finally looked down from the sea to find the book in my lap.

ac sea1

Cormac on the beach in the evening being very pensive.

ac sea2

My friend’s teenage son helping Cormac cross the channel. It was deeper than we expected.

ac sea5

Watching all the children swimming in the sea from my friend’s beach house verandah.

ac sea8

Lauca and my friend’s daughter boogie boarding together.

ac sea4

Horses in the sea.

ac sea6

Cormac and one of our friends.

ac sea3

Lauca learning to make twine as a form of active meditation. Yes.. that didn’t come from stressed out me.. that little intervention came from one of our friends. He’s Aboriginal and he taught her how to make a traditional form of string.

ac sea7




Read Full Post »

Went for a walk

cc seaside

A long walk.

Read Full Post »

ad walkd2

ad walk


Read Full Post »

Here is an article from Hanna Rosin and I like her approach to life quite a bit.. and I always want to agree with what she is saying because of that, but like her anti-breastfeeding article I don’t agree with this latest one either. Here she is in Salon with“Crap, I forgot to be mindful again: How the mindful parenting movement is setting parents up to fail”.

At its core, mindfulness could be a pretty radical challenge to the parenting ills Senior diagnoses. A mindful parent would not buy into any preconceived notion of success. She would react to the child she has, not the one she wishes she had. And yet in practice the prescriptions given by the new mindful parenting gurus seem suspiciously to be all about molding a very particular kind of child—one who eats vegetables, doesn’t watch TV, shares his feelings, and loves the Earth. Just as you might want a more French or more Asian child, you might want one who is more mindful.

And here is a reply from Carla Naumburg over at her Mindful Parenting column.

Mindful parenting sounds like a fad, in the same vein as attachment parenting, tiger parenting, helicopter parenting, and whatever else parenting is coming next. Hot today, gathering dust on an over-tired parent’s bookshelf tomorrow. One of the problems with this sort of passing attention to something like mindfulness or mindful parenting is that people (myself included) write brief blog posts or even briefer status updates or tweets about it, and inevitably, we are misunderstood. The concept is misunderstood.

It’s happened once again, this time by Hanna Rosin, senior editor at The Atlantic, and founder of Slate’s DoubleX Blog. In her most recent piece on the blog, Rosin essentially endorses of the concepts of mindful parenting (including a description of this blog as “often smart and knowing” – thanks, Hanna!) while simultaneously dissing the whole idea. I suspect that she is having a similar reaction to mindful parenting that I have to most parenting theories, something along the lines of “Great. Just great. Another thing I’m not doing, another way in which I am colossally screwing up this whole parenting gig. I’m too tired for this sh*t.”

I want to say a couple of things about this. First of all, I love the whole idea of mindful parenting or slow parenting or whatever you want to call it. I’ve been interested in it for several years as you can see from the numerous times I’ve referenced it here on the blog. Here, here, here, here etc. I have also written an article about it.

Even if I am not often practicing mindfulness I certainly think about it a lot. And I’ve read Thich Nhat Hanh’s book several times in a dark night of the soul kind of way, I love the incorporation of mindfulness into cognitive behavioural therapy, I go walking and taking photographs to slow myself down and blah blah blah I’m a cliche. So, when I see someone like Rosin criticising the mindful parenting material for being rather prescriptive I think… she’s kinda right. It can be read that way.


I also think parenting can sound prescriptive when people are exploring their approach and the approach is very different to how we were raised so you’re spelling it all out and testing it in your head as you write. Like feminist parenting, you don’t necessarily have role models for this stuff, you’re carving out a new direction and when you’re thinking aloud and trying to construct a framework for yourself it can read as prescriptive ..but it isn’t necessarily intended that way. And we would do well to examine the baggage we bring with us as readers to new and difficult concepts and not put all of that on the authors. (Feeling judged by other’s decisions is an ego-centric way to live etc). I also think it is way too easy to criticise liberal parents in a fairly nonconstructive way. Look for bigger targets; mind own business; make sure there is a point to all this.

This is something that applies across the board when it comes to how we criticise or self-examine in the left. Because, I am no expert on mindfulness but I have read enough to know that if you think mindfulness is one more task to add to your To Do List, as Rosin does, then you really don’t get mindfulness. There’s a lot more to this process. You need to engage before you criticise. Naumburg is right about all of that in her reply.

By the way, there’s no good ending to this post.. I have to get to a playdate with my child.

Read Full Post »

« Newer Posts - Older Posts »