Suck on that
September 8, 2010 by blue milk
I owe it to those who I have offended to publicly say, I am sorry. It is not me to give offence to other people no matter who they are..
No matter who they are… they could be some pretty low types, like cock-sucking types for instance. Yeah, even that low.
I am not a person who judges others or speaks in a way that hurts others.
I don’t judge. I am telling you that you are obviously someone who would generally be judged, but I don’t judge, really.
My comments were thoughtless and careless but I can assure you when I made those comments on Twitter I never intended to offend anybody.
Well, except for the South African Rugby Team, who I was suggesting were no better than dirty, cock-sucking men. And come to think of it, all of the other men out there who suck cock can be a little offended too.
I’ve also learnt that some things you say can mean more to others than they do to you.
And at last, my favourite part of Rice’s apology. You know, pretty sure “Suck on that faggots!” has the same meaning to everyone. We might not all be equally as hurt by that remark, but we all understand that remark.
‘kay I am grateful for the fact that we live in a time when public figures have to at least account for crap like this, and it is nice that such a moment provides the opportunity for a gay colleague of theirs to pop out and be all magnanimous about it and defend their sorry reputations, but I just wish these public figures had to make an actual apology in order to earn the forgiveness.
At the very first Dyke March in Minneapolis in the early 90’s, I remember running down the street with hundreds of women and seeing a man holding a sign off to the side that said, “COCK SUCKERS FOR MUFF DIVERS!” I have never forgotten that sign and this post makes me want to raise one that says, “MUFF DIVERS FOR COCK SUCKERS!” Divided we fall.
My gripe is that a prominent gay former footballer’s comments about this issue were full of ableist slurs. But there is nothing in the media about that because nobody noticed. I’m sure that if they had then some parts of the media would have delighted in pointing them out.
Mindy, excellent point. I cringed when I read his retort too.
I should probably explain that last comment. Just as SR should have known better than to make a homophobic slur the prominent former footballer, who does a lot of charity work nowdays and would probably be horrified if what his words were actually saying was pointed out to him, should also know better than to use ableist language.
Were I the publicist for this footballer person, I’d make her apologize good and proper! Where is the PR staff here, is what I want to know?
And – I will hold that sign with you, Mindy! Semi-off-topic, but isn’t it interesting how, in the gay world, there is less unity between the genders than there is between the orientations? Maybe that’s why that sign stuck with you. I blame the patriarchy, fo’ sho.
My favourite part of her snivelling apology? The bit where she says she has ‘lots of gay friends’. People wheel this line out all the time in a poor attempt to try and prove their innocence in relation to whatever -ist smear they’re being accused of. Cos if you don’t have gay friends, it’s totally fine to slag off the cock-suckers and the muff divers. What do you mean ‘misogynist’? I know lots of women!
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